Shyness can be a difficult problem, especially for a child. Whether the shyness is a result of an inner problem or simply not wanting to participate in conversation, you can help your .

If your child has an exuberant personality but tends to shy away from strangers, there really is nothing to worry about. However, if your toddler seems to have behavioral problems, becomes angry or fearful, then shyness is a cover for something more problematic.

More often than not, children are pushed into situations they are uncomfortable with; either having to kiss a stranger invited to the home; or having to seem more outgoing that he actually is can ultimately force the toddler to become more withdrawn and akin to a turtle, put his head back into the shell. In order to help your toddler overcome shyness, don’t make a point of it. Do not treat him any different than any other child. Think of your child as quiet and reserved, and refer to him that way if asked by others. There is nothing wrong with this assessment, and the manner in which you treat him will not overstate the obvious, but allow him the room he needs to find his way.

Shy children are also fearful of strangers. If you take your toddler to a friend’s home, let him bring along a blanket or a toy. It is a familiar object which, to the toddler, represents home – which he views as safe. It can also be used as a way to communicate between the toddler and the stranger. The point is not to force your child to have to say or do anything – just be. Eventually as he sees your response to strangers appear comfortable and happy, he will follow suit. Often shy children become introverted, and it takes a lot to draw them out. To this end, invite children to your home to play with your toddler. He will feel safer at home, and the children may help your toddler to open up in ways adults can’t.

Help your by not doting on him, but by giving him a great deal of love and support. Do not make an issue out of his shyness, nor force him to become involved in situations which frighten or make him uncomfortable. He will find his way in time, and be able to communicate and come out of that shell. He just needs to find his niche; and once he does – all will be well. Remember, children need to progress at their own pace. While one sibling may be outgoing and friendly, another may be just the opposite. The key is not to make allowances for one; but to treat each child equally.

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